Sex and the Single Man

By Ralph Alterowitz

“I’m divorced and would like to get remarried. How do I build a new relationship given that I have been treated for prostate cancer and am impotent?” That’s a question Barbara and I had last week when we conducted one of our workshops for prostate cancer patients and significant others. Continue reading

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The Lovin’ Clock

By Ralph Alterowitz

I don’t understand it,” he said. “In the morning, I can feel hot and want to make love. But in the evening, forget it. After dinner, I gradually run out of steam. By 9 or 10 P.M., I am ready for bed. In fact, I’m straining to stay awake until then. Unfortunately, my wife is completely the opposite. She’s awake in the evening and not in the morning.” Continue reading

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Elephants Do Bite

By Ralph Alterowitz

“We haven’t made love in the 11 years since I was treated for prostate cancer,” said the man to the group sitting in a circle discussing their sexuality issues. Impotence and some stress incontinence embarrassed him the first time his wife approached him after treatment, and they never tried again. They also never discuss it. Continue reading

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The 97 Lb Weakling Can’t Have Good Sex?

Charles Atlas was able to have great sex. Whether he did, we do not know. But he was physically fit for sex.

Paraphrasing the old song, sex and marriage go together like a horse and carriage – except when they don’t. Weight and physical fitness can get the best of marriages mired in the “no sex” bog, Continue reading

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The Lost Art of the Diagnotician

By Ralph Alterowitz

There used to be a class of doctors that we called diagnosticians. They were the physicians who could put disparate pieces of medical information into a meaningful pattern and diagnose the problem. Or people would come to them with an ailment that the family doctor could not solve. Continue reading

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The Patient Doctor Fit

By Ralph Alterowitz

Just before this note went to press, I attended two prostate cancer conferences. One of them dealt with awareness, early detection, and post-treatment options and care. In talking with attendees, one hears stories about their care and their doctors. One man was angry that his doctor told him he was okay because his PSA was under 4.0. When the patient saw the result was 3.98, he pushed for further tests and was found to have prostate cancer. Had he not pursued it, he would not have been diagnosed. Continue reading

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President’s Notes: Giving Back

By Ralph Alterowitz

In June 1995, a man was diagnosed with prostate cancer. His doctor said there were three treatment options: surgery, radiation, and hormones. “The decision is yours,” the doctor said, but very little information was available. Other doctors confirmed the three choices with recommendations biased by their respective area of expertise. Continue reading

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Cancer Think – Life Ain’t the Same and Life is Great

By Ralph Alterowitz

Prostate cancer means change. I certainly did not think about major changes in my life before treatment. Even after treatment, I did not think about permanent changes, probably because I did not expect to be around for long. I dwelled on my life coming to an end in about six months. My two priorities were getting my affairs in order and trying to decide which treatment to choose. But I thought it was kind of stupid to be particular about what treatment to sign up for if I was not going to be around for long afterward. Continue reading

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What is Meaningful?

By Ralph Alterowitz

As we were flying to Washington, my seatmate asked whether I liked Atlanta. I was going home, and he was going to a meeting of clergy to discuss the possible conflict with Iraq. He told me he was a pastor of 2,000-member congregation. Continue reading

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Motivation Begins at Home

By Ralph Alterowitz

Everyone, I suppose everyone knows about Tony Robbins, that good-looking 6’7” man who motivates people to climb Kilimanjaro or at least excel in their work, their relationships and attain the farthest-reaching goals in their dreams.

Tony is looking to expand whereby you get up in the morning put on Robbins’ endorsed exercise clothes and sneakers, do your exercises to a Robbins video or tape, drive to work listening to the Robbins tape of the day and while you are doing some of these things you would also be drinking special juices and drinks…you get the idea. Maybe someday, sit in a Robbins chair and sleep in a Robbins bed. Continue reading

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